My friend is having a halloween party this weekend, and she’s invited me and about 15 other guests. I only know about 6 of them because its my boyfriend, my close friends and their boyfriends. My two best friends are hosting it together and dont see why I wouldn’t go. In fact, they’re quite short with me whenever I mention that i’m not SURE I want to attend.
The reason I don’t want to go is because all of the people she invited are complete strangers to me, or they’re simply not people who I’ve had much interest in getting to know. I want to spend my halloween with friends and people I already know, can get loose with, and who will make me laugh.
As well as that, my friend is requiring everyone to bring a snack and I’m not doing well financially right now since i’m saving for a car. She ALSO is telling people to dress up.
This is all fine and dandy, but she’s just now sending the invites when the party is in 4 days. So all of the sudden, I have these costume and snack expenses to think about because she didn’t plan far enough ahead of time.
I’m kind of upset about being VERY pressured to go and I’m even more upset about being TOLD not asked, to bring a snack to someone’s house even though THEY’RE hosting the party, THEY chose to have it at the last minute, and THEY are forcing me to go.
btw. I’m in high school. so this is a bigger deal then it would be in the adult world.
Should I go? should I not? should I go but not buy anything? should I suck it up and be there with my best friends? I need advice please.
Oh tough one!
Tell her your mom wants you to stay home for halloween with your cousins.
Juliet's a Facebook Whourex3 | Oct 28, 2009
its completely up to you to go of course but it is your best friend as you stated hosting the party. you really don’t have to interact with other guest its not always a requirement at parties but you can interact with people you do know. you can maybe just go for a lil while and then go do what you really want to.
.Lady Love. | Oct 28, 2009
you could bring something cheap for the party like peanut butter cookies=es and decorate them put spiders on them ghosts on them make the best of it go girl your boy friend wont like being stood up
renee | Oct 28, 2009
Here’s what you do. Show up, then pretend you’re sick and say you want to go get some rest!
Or don’t go and just say you’re sick and can’t come.
B.J. | Oct 28, 2009
thats ridiculous. you’re in high school. there shouldn’t be some big procedure to go to a party. you’re supposed to have fun. i say either go somewhere different with your boyfriend and other people you feel comfortable with or if you absolutely cannot find anything else to do (which is unlikely) then go to the party without a snack. i dont think the snack police will arrest you if you dont bring any. and if they are your best friends they should understand if you’re going through financial issues.
Alice in wonderland | Oct 28, 2009
well i would go personally. sure you don’t know all the people but you know a little less than half of them. so you can hang out with your friends and meet new people and not have it be all awkward.it’s much easier to talk to new people when you have friends with you
and about the costume thing look through your closet and try to come up with something or see if your of your friends has a costume that they aren’t using. And if you can’t afford a snack talk to your best friend if she knows that you have been saving up for a car then she/he should understand. if you are worried about being embarrassed about not bringing it offer to come over early and help set up so that you don’t have to worry about the other people seeing you without a food dish.
punklovinchickita | Oct 28, 2009
Where else would you go? And why are you only just now thinking about a costume of you were planning on going somewhere "with friends and people I already know, can get loose with, and who will make me laugh"? And I bet they don’t have much money either… In the college and adult world you’re expected, every time, to bring something. You can’t expect your friends to feed you. Just take cookies or a two-liter of Coke. If 6 out of 15 are acquaintances then you know about half of the people going.
Yes, you should just suck it up. I bet it would be more fun than anything else you would end up going to and it would strengthen your relationship with your best friends instead of hurt it. It’s just one halloween, You see them everyday at school.
Mrs. Sanders | Oct 28, 2009
Going is up to you, not to them - remember that. Don’t let them force you to do anything.
If you do decide to go: You are NOT obligated to bring a snack. They can ask all they want, but if you can’t afford it/ just plain ol’ don’t want to, you don’t have to. They should be understanding, if not- you should re-evaluate your friendships.
If you decide not to go: Explain to them that you would feel very uncomfortable about being there with so many people you don’t know. Make sure they know it’s not because of anything they did, or didnt do. i’m sure they’ll be upset, but it’s only because they want to hang out with you.
What I would do: is go. It can’t be that bad since you’ll know almost half the people there, no one is going to force you to communicate with people you dont want to, and also- if you get too uncomfortable, you can just leave early. At least then, you’ve made the effort.
Tiffygunt | Oct 28, 2009
